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OUR LIVES BEGIN TO END THE DAY WE BECOME SILENT ABOUT THINGS THAT MATTER.
MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR.
MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR.
9/29/2017 1 Comment Where’s the Middle Ground?Right now I’m having to learn a hard lesson, finding a balance between treating others how you want to be treated and people will treat you how you let them. I want people to be direct and understanding with me so I try to do that for others, but I’m finding over and over that people take advantage of too much understanding.
So where is it? Where is the middle ground? How do I make it understood that people have to be respectful while also being an understanding and compassionate person? As time goes on, I find myself saying more and more often “hey, I’m just an ass”, but that’s the thing... I’m not always an ass. I love helping people and being kind, but experience is really teaching me not to expect the best of people. At this point, I’m really not sure what I’m going to do to resolve the issue, but that’s what I’m going through right now and I figured I’d share it. If you have any advice, you can leave a comment. I’d love some help on this one.
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Dustin
9/29/2017 03:23:36 pm
HE was kind to us when we were not.
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I'm spent.I feel so spent right now. I cried a couple times today, not because anyone was mean or they upset me. I cried because a friend and I talked about a couple things lately that've been hard for me. Today was a good day until I cried... since then I've been mostly exhausted.
I know that crying is a normal thing people do and it can sometimes make people feel better. However, it is not a normal thing for me. Crying physically exhausts me. It emotionally exhausts me. If I were to sit around one day and cry off and on all day, I would probably need a full day afterwards to sleep it all off. I've had people say things like "It's not healthy to never cry" or "You need to allow yourself to feel your feelings/process your feelings/etc"... all of that might be true for other people, but crying all the time isn't an option for me. I feel physically ill now because I cried earlier. MY BODY DOES NOT DO WELL AFTER FEELING OVERWHELMED LIKE THAT! Recently I had I friend die. She was originally a teacher of mine, but we grew to be friends and I valued her so very much. When I found out she'd passed away, I wept. However, the crying allowed me to mourn the loss of her life and process that situation. That is one of the rare cases when crying does not wear me out. Crying then actually helped a lot. In normal situations where I have not lost something, I am usually just in a tricky situation or a stressful thing has happened, crying does not help. It stresses me out and adds to my already full plate. This is something I learned about myself today. I had an inkling before, but today really drove that inkling home. It's for sure now. |